Toxic People

You have to admit that at some point in your life you have known someone who is toxic. Whether you have a current relationship with them ie. significant other, family, friend, etc. or it is someone you no longer have in your life but use to know.

I find toxic people to be completely draining. Life is a beautiful thing and while it is a roller coaster of a ride filled with up's and down's, you have to make the most of it. There is no reason why anyone should have to deal with a person who intentionally goes out of their way to hurt you or cut you down. 

I have been there, I have been that person who has had toxic friends and in middle school I'm sure I was also one of those toxic people. The good news is you grow up and grow out of that stage in your life. The bad news, not everyone does. 

I recently had someone go out of their way to be rude to me and you know what? I was shocked. It has been quite some time since someone I knew had intentionally tried to cut me down especially when I haven't done anything wrong. I was annoyed for a bit and then I realized something. How miserable must this person be to try and make me miserable. When you're happy everything is great, you're nice to anyone you come in contact with, your smile is brighter, and you spread kindness like confetti. When you are crabby you're just the opposite, you're even more likely to snap at others. I feel sorry for people like this so I continue to be friendly but not to be friends with them because their life must genuinely be awful all the time. 

I am the type of person who is understanding of others situations and unless I have personally walked in your shoes I am just always going to be nice regardless... that's just how my parents raised me. And while I can understand people go through things to make them a certain way I have realized it's not what happens to you but how you react to it that matters. If you choose to take the high road - great! If not that's your choice but no one should have to deal with that kind of negativity.

If you are currently in a situation with someone who is toxic I recommend being nice and polite but also allowing yourself to cut that string to the anchor that is holding you down. It's not always easy. I've been reminded of that recently, I don't need nor want someone in my life who at any given moment could just snap and try to hurt me. Be around people who bring out the best in you, not the stress in you. 

How you treat me is your karma, how I react is mine. 

There is nothing wrong with not wanting negative people in your life. You don't owe anyone an explanation for letting someone go so you can grow and be happy.

I just thought I would share my few thoughts on the topic since I recently just went through it. 

Taryn